I used to ask that question all the time, especially during my separation and divorce. In all honesty, I still ask the question sometimes still, yet I have a better understanding of the spiritual aspect. Why do I talk about my divorce all the time? I've never had to deal with drugs or with alcohol. I can't speak on that. I've never had to leave home because of some fight with my parents (at least with my immediate family). I've never had to be involved with the court system in any way negative. I've never put my hands on my wife or my son. In general, according to man, I've lived a pretty decent and clean life. The only thing major that I can hopefully speak on spiritually was my divorce, and all of the emotions that went along with it.
I gotta say, if it weren't for God, I'd be in a really bad place still. I lost......... my whole family. People who said that they would NEVER leave me, that they would love me, and I believed them, ESPECIALLY my Wife who looked me in the eyes so deep that early evening at Stone Mountain Park and said "I'm never going to leave you". My Wife (who took my son). My Father. My Mother. My Brother. My Sister. All In-Laws, all gone, but my family regardless. I lost them all in one vicious swoop of a divorce decree. The coolest thing about God, for me anyway, is that He was there when they left me. I learned then that you can't trust man's promises. He was there when they dropped me like a stranger. He answered me when no one else would. What's even cooler than that, is that during my interaction with my family, I did some things that I should not have done. I stopped having a relationship with Him. I basically stopped praying, stopped reading my bible, I stopped being dedicated to Him. I never really knew how to fast so I never fasted back then. These are things I did, I blame no one else. So the tears can't help but to fall when I think about the fact that it was Him who came to me when I called, when I suffered so much by the tactics my Wife initiated. He answered me as if I had never left Him. When they lied, He was there when I called on Him for peace, and I tell you truthfully within about 5 minutes I had that peace, as if it never happened. I called on Him to figure out how to handle the Ford, having no idea what to do, and He told me just what to do. He guided me when I started bringing an escort with me to help watch my son when I did see him. I can go on with all the things that I had to endure. So many things that were done were just so hurtful, so.... it seemed, spiteful without any reason. I had no experience in dealing with people like that. I used to say "But they are supposed to be Christians. Why would they do this to me?"
Oh yea, I've had plenty of times to say, and I made sure I took the opportunity to say, "WHY ME?!" I had no training in how to be divorced. I only have experiences of how to be married, having at least 6 marriages to pull from, with the youngest marriage now being a few years old. Thank God He pulled me through. Out of my whole family, which includes 12 kids (from my grandparents), about 22 grandkids, and about 6 great grand kids, I am one of the only two that has gone through a divorce. Strangely enough, both of us were married to women who were not in the church (I speak in terms of a home church that was visited every week).
So what do I do now? I pray that God deals with them as He sees fit. I ask that He blesses them as He sees fit. I don't ever tell Him to send down His wrath upon their heads, who am I to request that? I just pray that He allows them to see the error of their ways. I'm WAY more forgiving now than I was say 2 years ago, giving way to peace, yet hoping for next time. No my circumstances haven't changed, yet I'm more forgiving, loving, at peace, and strengthened spiritually than I was before.
I can't do anything but say Thank You Jesus!
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